How To Overcome Self-Imposed Limitations

Self-imposed limitations are restrictions that hold us down and prevent us from attaining our potential, usually set by the individual voluntarily on achievability. The person will never evolve beyond the arbitrary standard set for him or her.

They say our attitude determines our altitude. Sounds cliché, right?

Try hanging out with achievers and feel the positive vibes around them. Some may call it cockiness, but I call it confidence. Self-imposed limitations are the obstacles that we set against us, in our minds. In layman’s language, they are the lies we tell ourselves about our (in) capabilities.

“Your positive action combined with positive thinking results in success” – Shiv Khera.

Effects Of Self-Imposed Limitations 

Serial failure: Those who keep telling themselves they can’t do something, mostly can, but don’t. When your mind has already been conditioned to believe that you won’t lose weight, chances are you won’t have the motivation to eat right and work out.

Succumbing to peer pressure: Because you don’t have a clear destination in your life as you don’t even believe in yourself, you will follow who you hang out with due to your lack of principles.

Low self-esteem goes hand in hand with self-imposed limitations: You will settle for whatever life throws at you; from abusive partners, unfulfilling relationships, and toxic friends and colleagues. You won’t have standards for yourself.

Steps To Overcoming Self-Imposed Limitations

Impossible only exists when you believe it/Fear of failure

Do you know that at some point, the 100-meter Olympic race was almost some sort of mini-marathon? How many seconds did Usain Bolt use to cover those tracks? Years ago, that was impossible.

Everything is impossible until it’s done. Believe you can fight the self-limiting belief; shun negative thoughts, self-doubt and you are all most there.

Get out of your comfort zone

You may want to achieve something, but that would require a huge sacrifice, like working more hours to improve your financial situation, taking an extra class to improve your education, tightening your budget to live a debt-free life. These aren’t changes; they are new habits to be developed.

As I suggested in this post, meditation is a great exercise to calm your mind, reduce anxiety, and help you maintain focus.

Understand that success does not just show up at the door. It is a process. It is hard work. But it is not impossible, make the move now!

A man getting support from a support group

Hang around achievers/Support group

Show me your friends and I’ll show you who you are. Do you have five friends who feel that life is against them and everybody hates them? Most likely you are the sixth. We may not notice it, but the people we interact with regularly, subconsciously influence how we behave.

If you want to behave like some of your role models, start hanging out with them. also getting or joining support groups of people who have won self-limiting beliefs or people who have similar issues you have, might be a source of encouragement, during the sessions practical steps or tips are shared to effectively have the outcome the limiting beliefs.

Know your focus

It’s very common to hear people say they wanted to be XYZ or to buy XYZ, but life happened. Hold it.

Life doesn’t just happen.

The reason we never achieve our goals is that we lost focus, and never held ourselves responsible. You can achieve whatever you want as long as you focus on your goal and work toward it. You are accountable for your action. No excuses.

Write your goal down. Post it on the wall, at the door, or anywhere you can easily see it. Read them out loud each morning and before bed. Hold yourself accountable and check your progress regularly.

Change your mindset

Are you one of those who choose to look at the glass half empty rather than half full? You cannot keep living life fully if you see the glass as half empty. Stop the negativity and self-loathing.

A negative mindset is self-defeating. Never, ever resign to fate. The glass is half empty only you want to see it as half empty.

Look around. There is so much to be grateful for.

Actively take control of your life, and take care of your mental health. Be your own motivator. Remind yourself that you will win; you will reach your destination.

Over to you

It's time to take action, the life you seek is on the other side of fear, overcoming your limiting beliefs is doable. Do you need someone to handhold you and keep you accountable for your actions? I'm right here to help you.

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